Hi there! I can address the social anxiety part, because I struggle with it, and I am pretty sure my viewers notice, I can't add anything of use to the other side of it, because chaturbate is my only cam site.
So, Re: Social Anxiety
I have severe social anxiety at times, and autism. Viewers have noticed in the past. I do Fetish type stuff, and a lot of it is assworship or feet, the reason I mention this is because if I am feeling super anxious being in public chat, and I don't want to "Make eye contact" with my audience, I just decide they look at my clothed ass or my feet.
Once someone has been around a few times, I begin to be more comfortable chatting with them. If you have friend that you have cammed with before, or who you know from another site, ask them if they would be willing to moderate your chaturbate room.
The reason I suggest this is because:
You can have someone to talk to, riff of of, who can think up of ideas with you and your audience. I like to use my mods as assistants. They enhance the room experience and help facilitate.
I have been on Chaturbate since Januarary of this year. It has only been recently that I have begun to feel much more confident.
A note about the guys on CB: Some just lurk. They will never chat, they will just come in and out of your room, over and over, and over. It's maddening at first, especially when it shows they have tokens.
These guys are kind of important though, because they may hit you up for a private later on. I dunno if these types of dudes will trigger your social anxiety, but they did for me hardcore at first.
Another type of guy who comes in is one who seems very impatient and wants your attention right away, but he won't tip at first. He'll usually leave when you mention anything about tokens, or he'll begin tipping. I mention this because these kinds of guys always spike my anxiety at first.
Other guys are super chill, and some models might come into your room and chat casually. Over time, as you get some of these people coming into you room and you notice them more, I think your social anxiety might go down some.
Just kinda what I thought would be the most useful.
