Over the years I've struggled thinking I needed a job to be considered successful. Now I am full-time self employed with online businesses that don't need me to be present all the time and I went back to camming. plus adding in investing.
Once you know which direction you really want to take for yourself, the transition becomes easier. For me it finally hit me when I took one semester of college and really took a good look at what my college and career options where. it put in a place of do I give up 15 years of working for myself, or do I try and squeeze and explain about 2 years of employment with a ginormous gap.
Self employment and running a business there is no need to explain your gaps and breaks, hiatus to anyone, you just pick up get resourceful and keep moving.
So whatever direction you choose if you really want it , things will fall into place as long as you are taking massive action.
my career was definitely not what I visioned for myself. I really thought I would have a decent career being in the porn industry, being some type of famous pornstar. instead my porn career ended as fast as I got into it. I got a handful of videos online and then another handful of videos that were shot and never even got published. the path of being porn star did a number on me mentally.
That I sometimes feel like I just settled or that I some convince myself I am not built for porn so I should just live a more simpler life.
I settled and put myself in situations of making money because of my fears and I don't regret them I am just sometimes sad over them. So the hard part is creating a new path that I am passionate about and at the same satisfy those needs that you typically feed from a personality that is sex driven.
There is no perfect blueprint for any of it.