How long have you been on Ifriends? If you are new try the Free2Private setting. You will have to chat with guests and members before they take u private but you will get more traffic and more chance of privates. It is my understanding that the Standard setting is for models who have been there a while and built up a following.
I chose the standard setting when i first signed up and got no one for a while. I contacted support to see if something was wrong and thats what they told me. Ive been using Free2Private since and have begun to build up a following. I have been there 2 months.